13 Simple Tips for a Better Sex Life

Never in the mood? Prevention magazine’s 13 simple tips for a better sex life will have you craving more.

Can you remember the last time you couldn’t wait to get home and shimmy between the sheets?

Was it last week, last month? Last… year? We get it: Sometimes it’s easier to give into your excuses — I’m too tired, let’s just do it this weekend, it doesn’t even feel that great to begin with. But we don’t need to tell you that sex is essential for a healthy marriage — and also a healthy you. Research shows that a happy sex life can stamp out stress, reduce heart disease risk, and even improve immunity. But enough of the non-sexy talk. Try just one of these libido-lifting tricks today. You can thank us later. Read more

Can You Please Your Female Partner with a Small Penis?

A reader asks Dan and Jennifer, “How can I please my male or female partner even though I have a small penis?” Their answer is good concerning how to please your female partner if you have a small penis, but concerning how to please her with a small penis – not so much. For more about that, click  here and here.

The 7 Sex Moves Men Love Most

To many men, any sex is good sex (since they get so little), but more experienced men know that there’s sex, and then there’s great sex. These seven sex moves are guaranteed to thrill even the most sexually experienced man (and make him eager to please you in return).

Men joke that any sex is good sex — and they’re not entirely kidding. They’re biologically designed to be gratified in bed more quickly and easily than we are. But when pressed, almost every man will admit that sometimes sex is better than good. Certain sex moves drive them crazy in the best possible way. Women who know these moves hold the kind of power over men that inspires great art, novels and films. And you don’t have to be lithe or athletic to perfect them. In fact, they’re ridiculously easy to learn.

The seven techniques here are guaranteed to thrill him — and make him eager to please you in return. The couples who’ve tried them can attest to that. Read more

Why Simultaneous Orgasm Should NOT Be a Goal

Greta Christina explains why simultaneous orgasms should not be a sexual goal.

I’ve written before in this blog against one of our culture’s biggest ideals of sex: the ideal of spontaneity, the ideal that sexual desire should strike both (or all) partners at the same time, and that planning or scheduling sex is a boring, unromantic buzz-kill.

Today, I want to write about another romantic ideal of sex . . . and how it can fuck sex up.

I’m talking about the ideal of simultaneity.

In the standard romantic ideal of sex, sexual desire isn’t the only thing that strikes both partners at the same time. Sexual satisfaction does as well. There isn’t quite the same emphasis on precise simultaneous orgasm as there used to be . . . but there’s still the idea that both partners should be getting both aroused and satisfied on more or less the same timeline.

And while I have nothing against simultaneity as one sexual option among many, I have huge problems with it as an ideal, a superior model of sexual interaction that somehow promotes intimacy and romance better than any other model. Read more

Pompoir: The Art of Milking the Lingam

Pompoir is the art of “milking” a man’s lingam (Sanskrit for penis) with your vaginal muscles during sexual intercourse. Also known as the Singapore kiss, Shanghai kiss, Shanghai squeeze, or the Shanghai grip, the word pompoir originated in India. My post How to Milk Your Man’s Penis with the Vaginal Squeeze explains how to do the technique, and now Jennifer Lawless gives a Tantric version in her post Pompoir: The Art of Milking the Lingam.

Pompoir is the art of “milking” the lingam of your partner with your yoni. (Lingam and yoni are Sanskrit for penis and vagina.) While both partners are still, the woman grips and massages her man’s erection with rhythmic, rippling contractions of the pubococcygeus muscle (PC) and other pelvic floor muscles. (This rippling effect also happens during an intense orgasm in a woman.) The rippling causes a kind of milking action that can be felt by the lingam.

A woman trained in the art of pompoir is called a Kabbazah in the Middle East. The word Kabbazah translates to “one who holds.” Men say that pompoir feels like having a warm, soft, wet, velvet-gloved hand wrapped around their lingam, firmly gripping it and stroking them into the most delicious sexual nirvana they have ever experienced. Read more

How to Have Sex Outside

Sometimes all your sex life needs is a breath of fresh air. Women’s Health picks the five sexiest outdoor spots and gives advice on the best position in each.

Like margaritas, sex can be even better when experienced al fresco. “Having sex outside awakens the senses,” says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., a sex therapist and the founder of MyPleasure.com. “Feeling the breeze on your skin, smelling the freshly cut grass—stimuli are very erotic.” Plus, the fear of getting caught can add a thrill.

To inspire you, we’ve come up with prime outdoor spots for getting busy, plus advice on the best positions in each. Read more

How to Get More Foreplay

Most women will agree that good sexual encounters start with plenty of foreplay, but how do you get your man to give you the sensual attention you need to transition between washing the dishes/getting the kids to bed/straightening up and stripping down? You have to ask for it. Read on for wince-free ways to bring out the shoulder-rubbing, neck-nuzzling, best-lover-ever side of your man.

It’s a simple and, yes, slightly sad truth: Although a new partner works long and hard to show you that he’s a caring, attentive, and affectionate sort who loves nothing more than to give luxurious foot massages and make out for hours on end, in long-term relationships, the action tends to speed up considerably. You absolutely want — and need — more kissing, caressing, and all that assorted good stuff, but the thought of actually coming out and asking him for those sensual moves makes you cringe. Fortunately, no matter how shy you might be when it comes to X-rated topics, we’ve got some very effective words that you can bring yourself to say. Here’s the plan:

STEP 1: Get your motor running.
Before you ask your guy to lavish attention on your various hot spots, you’ve gotta get your mood on. After all, while a single thought — it’s time for sex! — might be all he needs to get started, you (like many women) probably require some transition between washing the dishes/getting the kids to bed/straightening up and stripping down. Start with some small requests like these to turn up the emotional temperature and help you get psyched for making more sexy suggestions later. Read more