Most women will agree that good sexual encounters start with plenty of foreplay, but how do you get your man to give you the sensual attention you need to transition between washing the dishes/getting the kids to bed/straightening up and stripping down? You have to ask for it. Read on for wince-free ways to bring out the shoulder-rubbing, neck-nuzzling, best-lover-ever side of your man.
It’s a simple and, yes, slightly sad truth: Although a new partner works long and hard to show you that he’s a caring, attentive, and affectionate sort who loves nothing more than to give luxurious foot massages and make out for hours on end, in long-term relationships, the action tends to speed up considerably. You absolutely want — and need — more kissing, caressing, and all that assorted good stuff, but the thought of actually coming out and asking him for those sensual moves makes you cringe. Fortunately, no matter how shy you might be when it comes to X-rated topics, we’ve got some very effective words that you can bring yourself to say. Here’s the plan:
STEP 1: Get your motor running.
Before you ask your guy to lavish attention on your various hot spots, you’ve gotta get your mood on. After all, while a single thought — it’s time for sex! — might be all he needs to get started, you (like many women) probably require some transition between washing the dishes/getting the kids to bed/straightening up and stripping down. Start with some small requests like these to turn up the emotional temperature and help you get psyched for making more sexy suggestions later. Read more