How to Talk to a Reluctant Partner about Pegging

Over on the Orgasm Army forums, a reader asks for advice on how to talk to a reluctant partner about the issue of strap-ons and Bend Over Boyfriend or pegging. Here is one response:

Well, I can’t speak from personal experience as my wife was amazingly understanding about it. I think you need to talk it through calmly – the usual objections are a) it means your gay or b) its dirty both of which can be dispelled fairly easily. I reckon you need to arm yourself with the arguments against both these points before you tackle the matter again.

As for the gay thing (a common silly comment made on forums when pegging is brought up) I point out that linking types of sexual stimulation to sexual orientation leads to so pretty silly suggestions – for example if a girl likes receiving oral then she is a closet lesbian or if a man likes doing his girl doggy style then he is really attracted to dogs and sheep :-)

The ‘it’s dirty’ thing is something she may need to read about on the web. Some people are convinced that you will end up covered in s#!t but, with only modest care this is completely untrue. If it help I should say that my wife is a doctor and would not indulge in anything that was a problem from this point of view and I have a routine that ensures I’m really clean and ready to go in about 10 minutes.

If she is worried that she will get nothing out of it then you should look at dildos like the feeldoe as this certainly can provide enough stimulation for the wearer to orgasm. Read more