Sex can be a great stress reliever, with the physical and emotional release, bonding, and release of endorphins. However, stress can actually prevent women from being “in the mood.” Relaxation is the key to getting her in the mood for sex. Unless a woman is relaxed in her mind, her body will not follow suit, and if her body isn’t relaxed, it won’t get excited.
Why is relaxing so important for women? Women’s brains can juggle ten things at a time, and unless the majority of those brain-juggling events are quieted, we won’t be able to shift enough of our focus to the matters at hand. How can you help your woman relax? You’ll be happy to know that there are some tried-and-true ways to helping her loosen up so that she not only responds to you better, but also enjoys herself more completely.
There are four essential elements to helping a woman relax.
1) Make her comfortable. Making her comfortable mentally and physically is about providing a good, safe, and enjoyable environment for a sexual encounter. For instance, if you do not live together, try to make your bedroom a place that is inviting for her. Does she have a corner of the room, perhaps a drawer or a dresser where she can leave some of her things? If you are living together, make sure that you pay attention to the state of your bedroom as well, participating in keeping it tidy, putting away your clothes, or simply making sure the bed is made. Cleanliness is next to godliness in most women’s eyes.
2) Minimize interruptions. By minimizing interruptions, you keep the environment a haven for intimacy. This is why there are locks on the doors and voice mail.
3) Make the space and time by planning. Just as you set aside time for other activities, you need to set aside time for romance and relaxation. You never know when these opportunities may present themselves to give her your undivided attention, which is so key to relaxing her and getting her in the mood for sex.
4) Make her feel attractive. A woman will not relax and let herself be open to getting turned on if she feels self-conscious or bad about her body. Women blossom under attention and positive body comments. Most women, even those with model bodies, question their attractiveness and often have negative feelings around their body image. Let her know what you like about her and what you’d like to do to her. She wants and needs to hear that you are attracted to her. Have you recently told her about the part of her body you find the biggest turn on? Once she knows how you feel about a part of her beautiful anatomy, remind her, often and regularly.
Most women will agree that though the physical effects of your method are important, the key to relaxing her is your attitude. Quite simply, if she feels like you have gone out of your way to treat her as special, she will respond. Relaxing can start twenty-four hours ahead of the game – in your head.One of the worst things that can happen to any man is not being “sure” if he had given his woman a orgasm. Imagine being so sexually skilled that you can literally give ANY woman orgasms. To discover the secrets to giving your woman the best sex she’s ever had, click here!