How to Talk to a Reluctant Partner about Pegging

Over on the Orgasm Army forums, a reader asks for advice on how to talk to a reluctant partner about the issue of strap-ons and Bend Over Boyfriend or pegging. Here is one response:

Well, I can’t speak from personal experience as my wife was amazingly understanding about it. I think you need to talk it through calmly – the usual objections are a) it means your gay or b) its dirty both of which can be dispelled fairly easily. I reckon you need to arm yourself with the arguments against both these points before you tackle the matter again.

As for the gay thing (a common silly comment made on forums when pegging is brought up) I point out that linking types of sexual stimulation to sexual orientation leads to so pretty silly suggestions – for example if a girl likes receiving oral then she is a closet lesbian or if a man likes doing his girl doggy style then he is really attracted to dogs and sheep :-)

The ‘it’s dirty’ thing is something she may need to read about on the web. Some people are convinced that you will end up covered in s#!t but, with only modest care this is completely untrue. If it help I should say that my wife is a doctor and would not indulge in anything that was a problem from this point of view and I have a routine that ensures I’m really clean and ready to go in about 10 minutes.

If she is worried that she will get nothing out of it then you should look at dildos like the feeldoe as this certainly can provide enough stimulation for the wearer to orgasm. Read more

How to Bend Over Your Boyfriend and Make Him Like It

While it still remains taboo in some circles, heterosexual anal sex seems to be gaining in popularity, and some couples are even exploring male anal penetration by the female partner, a sexual practice known as Bend Over Boyfriend (BOB) or pegging. These days more and more men are becoming interested in anal pleasure and comfortable with the idea of letting their female partners take control in bed.

The Bend Over Boyfriend Test

Anal penetration is the only way to stimulate the prostate, the male equivalent of the G-spot. The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located just in front of the rectal wall a few inches inside the rectum. To find it, feel the front wall of the anus (toward your partner’s belly button). My post Prostate Massage for the Ultimate Male Orgasm explains how to use your fingers to give your man an intense orgasm through anal play, but penetrating him with a strap-on can take the experience to another level.

The phenomenon of women penetrating their male partners has spawned a successful video series called Bend Over Boyfriend. Are you ready to take the next step in your sexual relationship? Is he? Find out by taking the “Bend Over Boyfriend Test, which has questions for both women and men. Take the test.