Mr. Perfect Made Easy: 23 Ways to Be the Man She Wants

Tip 4: No polyester sheets. Easy enough, right? Sarah Miller tells Men’s Health readers what else women want.

1. You can put down the weights and the protein shakes. You might want us to be perfect looking; we simply want you not to be fat.

2. Replace all of those hideous size-extra-large T-shirts with something that actually sort of fits. We think you might be a medium.

3. Never allow anyone who listens to baseball on the radio to cut your hair.

4. Purchase sheets that don’t contain polyester and that are white. Read more

22 Things You Should NEVER Say or Do During Sex

At The Frisky, Simcha lists 22 things that you should never say or do during sex.

Once, I got drunk at a wedding and took home a yuppie. He looked so cute in his white tux and charmed me into dancing to Earth, Wind & Fire. Needless to say, I couldn’t wait to take that stallion for a ride. But, as I unzipped his pants, he said, “Don’t get excited, you won’t be impressed.” A small penis never ruined my good time—until then. Things went from bad to worse. He was a deep-breathing whiner who just lay on his back because, he warned me, “Girls only get off when they’re on top.” Something tells me those other ladies weren’t given any other option—and they definitely didn’t orgasm. There are some things—like selling yourself short and telling someone how to get off—that you should never say or do during sex … Read more

10 Signs You’re Not Satisfying Her

Are you sexually satisfying your wife or girlfriend? Men’s Health lists ten signs that you’re not pleasing her.

If your wife has turned into No-Nookie of the North, bitch goddess of the frozen tundra, the problem may be emotional rather than physical, according to recent Kinsey Institute research. The study also suggests that in any given month, nearly one-quarter of women will report some sexual distress.

“When a woman feels dissatisfied, it’s very rarely in one realm,” says Scott Haltzman, M.D., a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry and human behavior at Brown University. Here are some clues she’s not happy.

1. She Pulls Away from Your Children
“She may resist caring for the kids because she’s hoping you might notice that her needs aren’t being met,” says Haltzman. “What she’s doing is asking you to talk.”

2. The Credit-Card Bill is Higher
“Some women resort to shop therapy to fulfill themselves,” says Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D., author of Adultery, the Forgivable Sin.

3. She’s Gained Weight
“Women will over-compensate for the lack of sex by eating more to feed their sexual hunger,” says Eaker Weil. Read more

Sugasm #164

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #165? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Confessional: Breaking the Girl
“And that’s why I’ll love it, that’s what will fuel me to dig deeper.”

Does Art imitate Life or Life Art?
“We were experimental and conventional and some times both in the same round of sex. ”

It burns…
“And this is no sweet kissing”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
A Porn Customer Protests

Sugasm Editor
Fetish Fridays: Teabagging

Editor’s Choice
Light Me Up Right

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Why Sex Is Better When You’re Angry

Almost three-quarters of women withhold sex when we’re fighting with our partners. However, by doing that we may be missing out on some hot sex because the adrenalin rush of a fight creates a response in the brain similar to sexual arousal. And after all, having make-up sex doesn’t mean you lost the argument.

The two of you have had an argument. You’re still mad, but he’s not — and he wants to make up by making love. Fat chance: You cross your arms in front of your chest and stand firm, unmoved by the tender kisses he attempts to plant on the back of your neck. “How could he think he’s getting sex now?” you wonder. You’re not alone: In a poll on redbookmag.com, 72 percent of female respondents said they withhold sex from their husbands when they fight.

But maybe you should open your arms and embrace your man instead of pushing him away. Making love is not an admission that you’re wrong and he’s right. It’s an acknowledgment and a celebration of the love you share even in times of discord. Besides, 10 minutes after the shouting, he’s already past the argument. Women hold on to anger longer than men do. We could learn from them how to let it go.  Read more

12 Sex Secrets Women Wish Men Knew

Men’s Health scoured the latest studies, grilled dozens of experts, and polled more than 700 women to come up with this list of 12 sex secrets women wish men knew. For example, did you know about the A-spot?

The G-Spot Has Friends. Find Them
You’re goal-oriented. Good. But the G-spot and the clitoris aren’t the only bull’s-eyes. “The most recent anatomical research suggests that the clitoris is perhaps better described as the ‘clitoral complex,’ where the vagina, urethra, and clitoris all function as a unit rather than as individual parts,” explains Kinsey Institute researcher and Men’s Health columnist Debby Herbenick, Ph. D.

Try working that clitoral complex by hitting multiple hot spots at once. Some researchers believe there’s something called an A-spot, located far inside the vagina on the side closest to her belly button. “Stroke this spot and she’ll lubricate almost instantly,” Cox says. “Put one lubed finger into her vagina as far as it will comfortably go. Use the whole length of your finger to explore the front wall of her vagina.”

Now triple the sensation: Stick both index and middle finger inside her, and stick out your thumb like you’re hitchhiking. It’ll pull your fingers more snugly against her vaginal walls, stimulating both A-spot and G-spot simultaneously. Then use your thumb to also stimulate her clitoris, and gently twist your hand. Read more

One Woman’s First Orgy Experience

Greta Christina, in her latest post at The Blowfish Blog, describes what it was like to take part in her first and only orgy.

I know. The title makes it sounds like a third- grader’s report on their trip to the planetarium. But you know, except for the third- grader part, it was sort of like that.

And I thought you might be interested to hear the story. I mean, who doesn’t like a good orgy story?

My very first orgy happened when I was in college. Surprise, surprise. I call it my first orgy, but in a sense it was my only orgy: Read more