Almost three-quarters of women withhold sex when we’re fighting with our partners. However, by doing that we may be missing out on some hot sex because the adrenalin rush of a fight creates a response in the brain similar to sexual arousal. And after all, having make-up sex doesn’t mean you lost the argument.
The two of you have had an argument. You’re still mad, but he’s not — and he wants to make up by making love. Fat chance: You cross your arms in front of your chest and stand firm, unmoved by the tender kisses he attempts to plant on the back of your neck. “How could he think he’s getting sex now?” you wonder. You’re not alone: In a poll on redbookmag.com, 72 percent of female respondents said they withhold sex from their husbands when they fight.
But maybe you should open your arms and embrace your man instead of pushing him away. Making love is not an admission that you’re wrong and he’s right. It’s an acknowledgment and a celebration of the love you share even in times of discord. Besides, 10 minutes after the shouting, he’s already past the argument. Women hold on to anger longer than men do. We could learn from them how to let it go. Read more