For a woman, a big penis can be both a visual and a sensational turn on. However, many women find that a very long or thick penis can cause discomfort and even pain during sex. A long penis can hurt because it can hit the cervix during penetration, and a thick penis may feel like it’s stretching you too much. Below are three suggestions for dealing with both size issues.
1) Extended foreplay
As part of female sexual response, arousal brings with it physical changes that help deal with a bigger penis. The vagina can expand by up to 200 percent during sex, so size is seldom an issue unless a woman isn’t fully aroused. To accommodate an erect penis comfortably, some women need up to 20 minutes of stimulation. If you’re used to intercourse with a partner who has a small or medium-sized penis, you may have been able to comfortably have intercourse before you were fully turned on. If your partner is bigger, you may need to wait until you’re very aroused before moving to penetration. Also, anticipating discomfort causes your muscles, including your vaginal muscles, to tense up, making penetration more difficult. If he gives you a long, sensual massage before intercourse, it will help to relax your muscles and also turn you on.
2) Add lubricant
If you don’t already use lubricant during vaginal intercourse, now is the time to start. There are dozens of different brands of lube, and they all make sex more comfortable by making it more slippery. Some women say they don’t need additonal lube because they lubricate a lot on their own. However, if you’re having intercourse with someone with a big penis, using extra lubricant is always recommended. Experiment with a few different kinds to see if a thicker or thinner lube is best for you, and, if you’re prone to yeast infections, avoid lubricants with glycerin. Don’t forget that lubrication can come and go, so be sure to keep adding the slippery stuff as needed.
3) Sex positions
Sex positions are another way to deal with discomfort due to a partner who has a large penis. The best sex position will be one that allows you control over the depth and angle of penetration and offers as much movement as possible. Avoid positions that allow for deep penetration (e.g., rear entry) and favor positions that give you more control.
The woman-on-top position is a good one to try because it lets you control the depth of penetration. Have him lie flat on his back and crouch over him on your hands and knees while sliding him inside you. Move your hips in circular motions as you glide up and down, only taking as much of his penis as you can handle. Another position you can try is to have him sit on a chair with no arms. Then straddle his lap, facing either toward him or away from him, and use your feet and thigh muscles to pump away. If you do use a position that allows deep penetration, such as rear entry (doggy style) or man-on-top (missionary), remember that the farther apart your legs are, the deeper he can thrust, so keep your thighs together. Not only will it prevent him from plunging in too deep, it can also make for some amazing clitoral/penile friction.
During sex, tell him how you feel, what is uncomfortable, and what feels good. This doesn’t mean carrying on a full conversation while having sex; simple words, such as “deeper” or “not so deep,” “gently” or “harder,” “faster” or “slower,”are usually enough to get the point across and make sex more enjoyable for both of you.
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