13 Simple Tips for a Better Sex Life

Never in the mood? Prevention magazine’s 13 simple tips for a better sex life will have you craving more.

Can you remember the last time you couldn’t wait to get home and shimmy between the sheets?

Was it last week, last month? Last… year? We get it: Sometimes it’s easier to give into your excuses — I’m too tired, let’s just do it this weekend, it doesn’t even feel that great to begin with. But we don’t need to tell you that sex is essential for a healthy marriage — and also a healthy you. Research shows that a happy sex life can stamp out stress, reduce heart disease risk, and even improve immunity. But enough of the non-sexy talk. Try just one of these libido-lifting tricks today. You can thank us later. Read more

Jada Pinkett Smith Gives Sex Advice

Jada Pinkett Smith, who is married to actor Will Smith, advises couples to spice up their sex lives by making love in cars or at work.

Jada Pinkett Smith says having sex at a friend’s house keeps relationships alive.

The actress, who is married to Will Smith, also suggests couples can revive their flagging love lives by getting intimate in their cars or workplaces. Read more

How to Break Out of Your Stale Sex Routine

When sex becomes routine, sex stops. Jasmine Leigh at AskMen.com tells how to get it started again.

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, the passion can ebb for the simple reason that you both know exactly what’s coming. It could be the best and dirtiest sex anyone has ever had, but it doesn’t matter: it’s the same as it was last time. It doesn’t mean you care any less about your partner, or find them any less sexually attractive, it just means you need to break the spell of sameness, and break out of your stale sex routine.

Admitting it’s time to change your stale sex routine
Acknowledging that a change is needed is the first step in your recovery from a stale sex routine. Read more

The 7 Sex Moves Men Love Most

To many men, any sex is good sex (since they get so little), but more experienced men know that there’s sex, and then there’s great sex. These seven sex moves are guaranteed to thrill even the most sexually experienced man (and make him eager to please you in return).

Men joke that any sex is good sex — and they’re not entirely kidding. They’re biologically designed to be gratified in bed more quickly and easily than we are. But when pressed, almost every man will admit that sometimes sex is better than good. Certain sex moves drive them crazy in the best possible way. Women who know these moves hold the kind of power over men that inspires great art, novels and films. And you don’t have to be lithe or athletic to perfect them. In fact, they’re ridiculously easy to learn.

The seven techniques here are guaranteed to thrill him — and make him eager to please you in return. The couples who’ve tried them can attest to that. Read more

How to Initiate Morning Sex

According to a research from Queen’s University in Belfast, a good morning session at least three times a week, decreases the risk of heart attack or stroke by half and a regular session improves circulation, thereby reducing blood pressure. Unlike late night sex – which is not only expected but rather ordinary – getting it on in the morning is exciting and exhilarating.  Morning sex could mean the difference between a good day and a great day.

However, your wife or girlfriend,  who typically does not peak sexually in the morning hours like you do, may not feel very sexy when she first wakes up. Sarah Stefanson gives some tips on how to get her in the mood.

One of the many differences between the sexuality of men and women is that men tend to enjoy morning sex, while women mostly prefer to keep bedroom activity reserved for nighttime. This probably has a lot to do with what is referred to as nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT), which causes a man without erectile dysfunction to have three to five erections as he sleeps. NPT is more commonly referred to as “morning wood” or “morning glory.” Whatever you call it, waking up with an erection is as good a reason as any to initiate a little early action. Unfortunately, your girl may not be in the mood the minute she opens her eyes, but if you approach it properly she will very quickly be just as into morning sex as you are.

Prepare the night before

In order to avoid having to get out of bed in the morning before initiating your early lovin’ you should do some preparation the night before. Read more

How to Get More Foreplay

Most women will agree that good sexual encounters start with plenty of foreplay, but how do you get your man to give you the sensual attention you need to transition between washing the dishes/getting the kids to bed/straightening up and stripping down? You have to ask for it. Read on for wince-free ways to bring out the shoulder-rubbing, neck-nuzzling, best-lover-ever side of your man.

It’s a simple and, yes, slightly sad truth: Although a new partner works long and hard to show you that he’s a caring, attentive, and affectionate sort who loves nothing more than to give luxurious foot massages and make out for hours on end, in long-term relationships, the action tends to speed up considerably. You absolutely want — and need — more kissing, caressing, and all that assorted good stuff, but the thought of actually coming out and asking him for those sensual moves makes you cringe. Fortunately, no matter how shy you might be when it comes to X-rated topics, we’ve got some very effective words that you can bring yourself to say. Here’s the plan:

STEP 1: Get your motor running.
Before you ask your guy to lavish attention on your various hot spots, you’ve gotta get your mood on. After all, while a single thought — it’s time for sex! — might be all he needs to get started, you (like many women) probably require some transition between washing the dishes/getting the kids to bed/straightening up and stripping down. Start with some small requests like these to turn up the emotional temperature and help you get psyched for making more sexy suggestions later. Read more

Elizabeth Hurley Gives Out Sex Tips

Actress Elizabeth Hurley has some sex tips, if you have a real fire and a couple of fluffy rugs.

Posh totty Liz Hurley has spilled the beans about her sex life.

The actress-turned-model has hinted she and her Indian businessman husband Arun Nayar enjoy getting hot and steamy in front of a roaring fire at their £2.7 million farmhouse in Gloucestershire, south west England.

She told Tatler magazine: “Next time you go to someone’s house in the country, be sure to check out if they have warm, possibly fluffy, rugs in front of their fire. Read more

Sugasm #164

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Confessional: Breaking the Girl
“And that’s why I’ll love it, that’s what will fuel me to dig deeper.”

Does Art imitate Life or Life Art?
“We were experimental and conventional and some times both in the same round of sex. ”

It burns…
“And this is no sweet kissing”

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A Porn Customer Protests

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Fetish Fridays: Teabagging

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Light Me Up Right

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30 of the World’s Best Foreplay Tips

Maya Silverman , author of The Erotic Massage Guide, has collected thirty of the world’s best foreplay tips. For example, here’s one from Greece that most men don’t seem to know: “The skin underneath a woman’s breast is very sensitive to a loving kiss and nibble.”

Hand’s up – those of you who thought foreplay was just that ‘Before Play’, i.e. not the real deal. Many of us rush through foreplay with a few kisses, gropes and fumbles – if you’re lucky! 15 minutes later it’s all over and it’s the rush to orgasm and roll over.

If you are one of  those people, then you could be missing a whole chuck of the seduction, arousal, and climax process. Getting foreplay right – makes the journey more fun, the pleasure more intense – and orgasm – well – just MIND BLOWING. If you want to be an expert, or atleast the desire to ‘fake’ expert lover status, now’s the time to get your notebook out.

Discover 30 of the word’s best tips.. Read more

Top 10 Soundtracks to Have Sex To

Popten lists the top ten tracks to have sex to, from Sigur Ros’s Takk, to Massive Attack’s Mezzanine.

Its no surprise that books, films and songs all follow the same build-up/climax/epilogue pattern as male or female orgasms. The steady climb and steady fall, the vertical leap and precipitous drop: kind of sounds like the difference between Wilson Phillips and Nine Inch Nails. Sex is story is soundtrack.

The world is divided into those who swear by sex with soundtracks, and those who are somehow indifferent. (I’m not even going to count you silent sexers- you’re probably the same ones that like mute partners, and that disturbs me to no end… necros.)

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So I’ll say it up front- my take on this list is going to be damn skewed. But take a look at it- try out a few of these albums, or their best tracks, and drop a comment.

10. Sigur Ros – Takk Read more