How men and women achieve the best orgasm is often different between the sexes.
We are all aware of the risks of high cholesterol, lack of exercise and stress. But surely there is one part of our lives that should be uncomplicated: the orgasm. Well, apparently not.
Recent evidence suggests that, for both men and women, how we get there has big implications for what it does for us.
For a man, the more wild and thrilling the sex, the closer it is to when he met his mate, the greater his chance of impregnating her. According to a recent Channel 4 documentary, men who are fully stimulated because they are enjoying “gourmet sex” will ejaculate up to 50 per cent more, and with sperm of a better quality. But the way that women orgasm also has important medical implications.
The Times Online article goes on to say that studies by Stuart Brody, Professor of Psychology at the University of West Scotland, have shown that women who orgasm through sexual intercourse have lower blood pressure, more sensitive fingers, are slimmer, and release four times more of the restorative hormone prolactin after climaxing. He even claims that observers can predict which women commonly orgasm from coital sex just by observing the vivacity of their walks.
Most controversial of all, Brody has shown that the coitally orgasmic have better mental health and better relationships. He claims they have greater satisfaction from their sex life and more frequent feelings of desire. Indeed, Brody says that that women who never climax coitally are at greater risk of neurosis, schizophrenia and anorexia.
According to most surveys, the number of women who orgasm through sexual intercourse is about one-third, but, given a choice, about three quarters of heterosexual women prefer orgasms from intercourse rather than through manual or oral stimulation.
So, assuming that you buy into all this, what does science say is the best way to bring that about? To avoid making men feel like failures, there has been a tendency to play down coital orgasm, but the evidence shows that longer time spent in penetration, rather than foreplay, reaps the best reward.
Half of women will climax if they receive penetration for ten minutes; that rises to two thirds if the man keeps going for more than 15 minutes. Read more
Since it appears that orgasm through intercourse is a key to physical and mental health for women, the women who don’t have are missing out on something important, not just sexually, but medically. My post How Women Can Learn to Have an Orgasm with Intercourse outlines a program for women to learn to orgasm from intercourse. For men, Bring Your Woman to Orgasm with the Coital Alignment Technique describes a sex position that brings 75 percent of women to a “no-hands” climax, and for the all-important factor of time mentioned in the article, 3 Easy Ways to Delay Ejaculation and The Two Best Sex Positions for Delaying Ejaculation tackle the subject of last longer.
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